I don’t have any children, but I’m the godmother to two wonderful angels. The baby girl had a class trip to the zoo today and her mother was a chaperon so it was up to me to fill in as a helper in my godson’s second grade class. My godson’s name is Tim and he’s bright, precocious, and fun. Today, all the second grade classes were having an outdoor picnic and the parents had to organize and run the activities.
When I arrived on the front lawn of the school, I learned that the parents decided on four games: water balloon toss, potato sack race, three-legged race, and a cracker challenge. The children would file out to the front lawn to eat their lunch on a blanket and then the four classes would rotate to each game station. I was looking forward to my “fill-in” helper-mom duties all week. I truly believe that children are the closest beings to God and spending time with them always teaches me invaluable life lessons. These are the lessons I learned from Tim and his classmates:
Yesterday, in my blog, I reminded women to run from men who are just not into them. One comment I received was a request for a checklist for ladies to know when a man IS into them. The commenter thinks women need help determining that as well and are sometimes too quick to write good men off. I thought that was an excellent suggestion so here we go…
How do you know if a man is into you? Because he will tell you AND he will show you. He will not send you mixed signals. It’s true that actions speak louder than words but you will know a man is serious about being with you when both his words and actions are in alignment. Again, I ask you to open your copy of “He’s Just Not That Into You” to the table of contents. If a man is into you, he’ll be the opposite of the points listed on that page and I’m going to include some of my own observations.
I love riding the train because I get to eavesdrop on people’s conversations. Today, I listened to a girl, let’s call her Mary, tell her girlfriend about the latest guy she’s dating, let’s call him Alan. The highlights of Mary and Alan’s relationship are as follows:
1) Mary and Alan are on-again, off-again lovers. She really likes him and is hoping he’ll become her boyfriend.
2) She lives on the north side and he lives on the south side. She doesn’t have a car. She always takes the train to go see him; usually at night when he calls. He has a car, but never offers to pick her up or stay at her place. He does drop her off at home in the morning because his job is near where she lives.
I recently hosted an interactive workshop on the “Art of Flirting.” Like a painting, sculpture, or dance, flirting is a work of art. Employed to initiate contact and express interest, the effectiveness of flirting is in the eye of the beholder. Successful flirting is navigating the rules of conversation and the unwritten laws of etiquette governing social engagement and interaction. It’s like a game of red light/green light. You move a few steps forward if you’re getting a green light. If the light turns red, stop and regroup. Below are some tips to initiate a new contact and/or fan the flames of an existing relationship.
A little over a month ago, I left my corporate job to pursue my dream of being a full-time writer and to have time to market my novel, Single Girl Summer. So far, it’s been an amazing experience and more than I hoped it would be. I quickly learned that I have to set daily and weekly goals, keep myself on a strict schedule, and diligently work different angles to figure out ways to make money.
At long last, FELA! has arrived at Chicago’s magnificent Oriental Theatre. The local black and fabulous were in attendance for opening night. I spotted Desiree Rogers of Johnson Publishing, the legendary Herb Kent of V103 radio, Loni Swain of WGCI radio, LaToya Cross of N’Digo, and Art “Chat Daddy” Sims of WCIU-TV.
March is not only Women’s History month, but it’s also Endometriosis Awareness month and tonight my fellow Brown Chick, Dr. Dawj, is hosting an Endometriosis Awareness Event. It’s so appropriate in this month of womanhood that we (women) educate ourselves on our bodies. I didn’t know that much about Endometriosis so I googled it and compiled some brief information below. I’m going to Dr. Dawj’s event tonight to learn even more and support a woman living with this disease. I hope to see you there.
I love meeting up with friends at coffee houses. I love the tranquil musak, the smiling baristas, and the coffee aroma lingering in the air. Today, I got there first and patiently waited for my girlfriend to arrive. She came barreling in like a violent tornado. Her stormy presence threatened to upset all the happiness in coffeeland. She slammed her purse on the table, grunted hello, and plunked down almost breaking the wooden chair. Something was up.
Me: “What’s wrong girl?”
Her: “Somebody should blow up Facebook. You know it ruins relationships.”
Me: “No, it doesn’t. People ruin relationships. What did he do now?”
Daylight savings struck again this weekend and took back the extra hour it had given at the beginning of winter. This change made me reflect on how precious time is. I’ve been doing that a lot lately. Four weeks ago, I retired from my corporate media sales job to be a full-time writer and entrepreneur. I’ve worked in media sales for over twelve years. Four years ago, I discovered my love for writing and have been trying to balance my corporate life and writer’s passion ever since. It hasn’t been easy having what essentially amounted to two full-time jobs and I was exhausted. I enjoyed media sales, but I love writing. In June 2011, I released my first novel, Single Girl Summer, and kicked around the idea of being a full-time writer. I was scared to leave the comforts of corporate America and a steady paycheck. I can honestly say that God worked on me and with me for the past year telling me it was time to live my dream.